I am 7 days post op and I can not believe I am sleeved and sitting here writing this post. I apologize for not writing sooner, but I was dealing with coming home to 2 children and being extra cautious not to over do it.
So the night before surgery, I said goodbye to my kids because I was leaving super early the next morning. I cried and cried for hours, and couldn’t figure out exactly what it was that was making me cry. I asked myself over and over “is this what you really want?” “is this what you really need” and both times I answered YES. I took my shower, I laid down and tossed and turned all night thinking about what I was going to do. I found that I didn’t say two words to my husband, which I should have, but I never thought for a second that he may be scared or concerned, because I was too overwhelmed with my own emotions. I finally fell asleep around 3 a.m.
So I woke up 6 am and got dressed, and we headed over to the hospital. I had the surgery at St. Francis Hospital in Roslyn Ny, which I have to say gave the most amazing support, I never met a staff of nurses that were so dedicated and concerned for their patients, so here’s a shout out to 1E at St. Francis. We arrived at the hospital and within 10 minutes I was taken back to the pre-surgical room and my husband was told to wait outside until I was settled and they would come get him. I changed into my gown, and lay on the bed, and that’s when I lost it. I was sobbing like a child; I couldn’t control or hold back what I was feeling at this point. The head of the bariatric department walked over to me and listened to everything I was babbling out, she was so warm and compassionate and assured me that what I was feeling was normal and expected. I wasn’t scared of the surgery, or my decision, I was scared of loosing who I am, and I can’t loose who I am, if I stay true to myself. I sent a text to my husband out in the waiting room just telling him how I felt, that I loved him, that I love our family, our life and that I had to make this change for me and only me. He responded that he loved me either way and as long this was for me, he would continue to support me. That let me know I was ok to go ahead, and that I would be fine.
I woke up from surgery and heavily sedated. I felt spaced out and could not believe how well I actually felt considering what I had just been through. I was still heavily drugged up and I remember my mom looking weird and I chuckled. The nurses in the PAC had me up and walking within the hour. I felt a little sore, but I walked the hallway 1 time around and laid down again, they had me walk it again a little while after and I was then sent to my room. That whole day and night was a blur of kind because the nurses were in and out every few minutes, and then they told me that I would be woken up and had to walk every 2 hours all day and all night long. They meant it, all night and all day every 2 hours like clock work they were there to get me to walk, needless to say there wasn’t much sleeping, but it was ok because the pain from the gas that is pumped into me during surgery was so painful, that I wouldn’t have slept anyway. That is by far the most painful thing I felt, it hurt pretty bad and nothing I did was really helping, when I walked it moved up to my chest and almost felt like I couldn’t breathe.
The next morning, they took me down for the flora test and it was nasty, but i managed to get it down and passed it with no problems. I was sent back to my room and was brought, butternut squash soup, tea, and cottage cheese. I was so scared to eat, but knew I had to do it. So I took 1 bite of the cottage cheese, and felt fine, 1 sip of the soup, it was fine, and then sipped on the tea, once it cooled off, till I was done. My doctor makes us leave the hospital on a pureed diet and with that I did better than I could ever have expected, the only complaint I had was the heaviness i felt in my chest and back from the gas. So they discharged me and sent me home. Right before they discharged me, they wanted to weight me. Usually in the past, my husband was not allowed to stay in the room with me, this time I didn’t care. It was liberating after being with him for 20 years to say this is what I weight, he didn’t flinch. I was down 8 pounds from when I started the pre-op liquid diet. Once home the only thing I did was drink and drink I never ate anything else.
The next morning I made myself a protein shake and I was so impressed with myself, I finished it in less than a 1/2 hour. I kept wondering if that is normal, the only thing I was experiencing was massive pains every time I swallowed. The pain would shoot up my back, and I can feel gas bubbles making their way up my stomach to my esophagus, and then the air bubbles would clear my throat and the pain went away, it didn’t have with every sip, but I think I was sipping too fast, because it happened with a few sips. Later that day I tried some soup, and it was fine as well (except again the pain in my back), I kept walking and walking and drinking and drinking. I was so afraid I would get dehydrated that I was counting every ounce I got in. I managed to do this for the rest of the weekend and although I was eating the slightest amount, I felt fine. On Sunday which was 4 days post op my husband drove me to buy a scale, he didn’t want me to go, but I needed to get out of my house, and the walking made me feel so much better. I got home and like a little kid couldn’t wait to jump on the scale, I was shocked that I had lost 14 pounds total, so 6 in 4 days since I was discharged from the hospital.
This takes us to today, day 7. I am able to drink with no problem whatsoever, I almost can gulp which I know I shouldn’t but I can drink with little to no discomfort. Eating is a challenge, and learning that point of “fullness” has to be learned. I find the denser the protein the fuller for longer I will feel. So if I have chicken (puréed) and some cottage cheese I am full faster (maybe 2 teaspoons or so) where’s I can have a whole yogurt, if I wait between each spoonful. Yesterday and today I am hungrier, but I also notice I’m not really drinking nearly as much as I can. Dinner is always harder, because it is a more dense protein (such as chicken) and I can eat much slower, I get full very quickly and the fullness last much longer.
So how am I doing? Ok, honestly much better than I could have ever imagined. Am I uncomfortable at times, YES. Have I had situations where something I used to love was in front of me? YES……… like pretzels, that was hard to fight off, but I had no choice, and you will find that eventually as hard as that moment seems, it does pass. I haven’t lost anything since Sunday and hope that my ability to drink or eat is not hindering anything, but I have my first post-op appointment tomorrow so we will see what the dr. says.
So I’m sorry if this post was a little boring, but for those who are having surgery I tried to give the play by play. I know we heard this 100 times but it’s very wise advice after surgery to SIP SIP SIP and WALK WALK WALK.